l8r, losers

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This is a picture of folded clothes + a passport so you know I’m leaving

I wanted to share with y’all this killer playlist Lex so kindly curated for me. It will be my soundtrack as I skip around London for the next few days.

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Direct link, here.

For those of you who don’t have Spotify, here’s a list of the songs:

There She Goes by The La’s
London Calling by The Clash
Train in Vain by The Clash
That’s Entertainment by The  Jam
I’m Good by The Mowgli’s
Light Me Up by Bronze Radio Return
Gone by JR JR
Oxford Comma by Vampire Weekend
Hello, Goodbye by The Beatles
Saturday Night by Natalia Kills
Sweet Disposition by The Temper Trap
No One’s Here To Sleep by Naughty Boy, Bastille
R.I.P. 2 My Youth by The Neighbourhood
All Day by Kanye West
Black Water by Timber Timbre
California English by Vampire Weekend
Keep It Together by Fyfe
Eleanor Rigby by The Beatles
No No No by Beirut
Do My Thang by Miley Cyrus
Time Capsule by Little Simz
Do I Wanna Know? by Arctic Monkeys
Someday by The Strokes
Lovely Day by alt-J
England by The National
Guess I’m doing Fine by Bob Dylan
Lost in My Mind by The Head and the Heart
Water by Ra Ra Riot (+ Rostam!)
London Beckoned by Panic! At The Disco
We’ve Been Dreaming by Echotape
Numb by Marina and the Diamonds
Hurricane by MS MR
Clearest Blue by CHVRCHES
This Could Be Love by Borgeous
Moments by Tove Lo
Kuaga by Pierce Fulton
Come Back Home by Two Door Cinema Club

The last one is because Lexi (like keg) wants to make sure I don’t extend my trip millions of times & never come back.

Will miss you so, NYC. Sure will.

xxsem

 

Don’t ask me questions

I take pride in the consistency of my character and refusing to blog for long periods of time without warning is part of who I am. So is being stubborn and loyal to a fault. It’s fine. You’re fine.

Press Play: Kamikaze by MØ

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Checking out Red’s favorite artist, he’s into astronauts

Living with two intelligent women who expose me to the scientific side of fashion has taught me that unlike fashion trends, personal style is unwavering. Sometimes, Lex will forward a photograph and mention it reminded her of me. I haven’t yet figured out what mold she thinks I fall into, but I enjoy noting her observations. This exercise has also made me aware that I project an image to those around me. We all do. Some stick to a classic approach, mixing basics, and others are more experimental.

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I dress like a scrub most times and if that is what identifies me, I don’t mind it one bit. There’s no harm in embracing the imperfect with a touch of insouciance.

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@ the adorable McNally Jackson Store Goods for the Study

The holidays came and went as quickly as New York entered Snowpocalypse 2016. Since moving to NYC, I’ve forged a few meaningful relationships that have been taking up most of my time and I couldn’t be more pleased with the arrangement. Activities include brunching for eight hours and apartment dance parties.

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The majority of Scrub Island

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Christmas happened two weeks before this!

Love Always,
sem

 

We’ll have a good time

Press Play: Take the Time by Tiny Tiny

The bad news is I’m guilty of neglecting the blog. The good news is I’ve been negligent because there’s so much life happening!

For instance, the Air + Style festival. The Los Angeles sky poured and poured all day Sunday, but when you combine a rain lover  with an over planner who keeps extra blankets and umbrellas in the trunk, a little rain is no problem. The same cannot be said about the badass skiers, who had to cancel the latter half of the competition due to poor weather.

Alas, we were predominantly there to watch Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeroes, The Flaming Lips, & Steve Aoki. They were all fantastic, The Flaming Lips were as artsy as ever and the advantage of a rainy Steve Aoki performance became obvious when he caked everyone, but Edward Sharpe & TMZ played the best and most heartfelt set.

I also have a new job. It’s a pediatric cancer research nonprofit and I’m so so very happy there. I needed something that blended policy and healthcare together and this was the perfect place.

My domesticity continues, as I’ve slowly learned to cook things other than breakfast.

Not breakfast!
Not breakfast!

Lastly, I have tons of life-altering decisions to make within the next few weeks/months. Will keep you all posted.

Now you all know I’m still alive & still not good at writing!
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On my mind

A couple weeks ago, I attended a political event in a beautiful Studio City home for Emerge California. They’re dedicated to training & grooming Democratic women to run & hold office, as the majority of our representatives lack ovaries.

Whenever I find myself in situations like that, my mind goes off in multiple tangents–ranging from my support of free booze to how I wish I were as good an orator as Kafi Blumenfield. Eventually, I asked myself, “What defines sexy?”

I was in the company of many strong/smart women. Yet on any given day/night, girls prance around the streets of LA as if it were some giant whorehouse. To show skin is to show skin but honestly, leaving nothing to the imagination seems like no fun at all.

I’m convinced that “sexiness” lies within you & you exude it. A sense of confidence & how you carry yourself, perhaps. Women who dress well,  those whose thought-process extends beyond their look & can get what they want without having to remove an article of clothing,  those are the women I look up to.

See: Christy Turlington

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Photo by Inez van Lamsweerde and Vinoodh Matadin; 2008

Love Always,

S

That Fish Cray

For those of you starting out at UCLA, it’s Zero Week, b/tches. This fall quarter may or may not include Kristen Stewart, as there has been mixed coverage over the summer that she plans to pursue a degree in English Literature. AKA switch her career path from mumbling on screen to making lattes (that’s funny because it’s mean).  Clearly still wish I was still an undergrad, but I digress.

This past Saturday, I joined NRM at work; she’s the Cray-Police. Recently, she started working for Mountains Restoration Trust. MRT is a non-profit organization determined to preserve the ecosystem of the Santa Monica Mountains. Though her job title is not something as cool as the Cray-Police, she is part of a team responsible for trapping invasive crayfish. They measure them, determine their sex (“Am I confused? Yes? Then it’s a female), & use the data for research.

Aside from the biological composition of crayfish. I learned that “crayfish” & “crawfish” are synonymous. The terms are simply regional.

ImageNick explaining safety rules to adorable volunteer group of Boy Scouts.

Sometimes, they find fish in their traps. The most common ones are the chub (native) & the carpe (invasive). Chub fish go back into the water & carpe fish go to (look away, kids!) Fish Heaven.

ImageNRM holding a chub & a carpe. Nick holding a crayfish. A creek holding inorganic & organic material behind them.

Love Always,
S

Feminist-allied Fathers

No one takes this blog seriously, myself included, because it should not be. With that being said, this is one of the few topics I hope some of you will hear me out on:

Every daughter needs a feminist-ally as a father.

What I mean by this is that as a father, you should be your daughter’s number one supporter & aid in providing her with the necessary skills to be comfortable in her own skin. Give her someone to look up to, not someone who will descend her into a daddy-issues spiral.

You will not talk about her body in a negative way, you will not subject her nor any other woman to slut-shaming, you will not stifle her ambition.

Be mindful of the effects patriarchy have had on you & your upbringing as well as how it affects you as a parent & a husband. Demonstrate healthy relationships & be respectful of your daughter’s mother, as both mothers & fathers offer unique perspective to upbringing. Be an example of healthy habits & respectful love.

Do not perpetuate gender roles. This does not mean a woman should not be a stay-at-home-mom, but it does mean that she should only do so by choice & not because it’s her place.

Let your daughter know that she can fix things on her own & delineate the difference between a change-maker & a complainer. Stimulate her to pursue higher education, if that’s what she wants.

Encourage her to run, go rock climbing, & play sports, as they provide you with skills relevant to the workforce & adulthood. Teach her how to cook/bake, as self-sufficiency is necessary. Inspire her to travel & manage her finances.

Most importantly, don’t keep her under the illusion that she will not experience pain in the world, as it can be cruel. Allow her to make her own mistakes & serve the role as an advisor & moral support when she needs you to. Do not kick her while she’s down.

Love Always,
S. Mejia